Below are a few of the modern ways in which we damage our relationships without even realizing what we are doing.
- Phubbing. (Also known as phone snubbing). It’s been scientifically proven that cellphones damage relationships. We feel dismissed when we’re in the middle of a conversation and the other person starts scrolling through their feed or begins to text with a third party. Undivided attention is necessary if you want to establish a connection. Eye to eye contact creates a bond. So if you want to reconnect again, turn off your phone and look the other person in the eye while conversing.
- Facebook Bashing. It’s never acceptable. Sarcasm, name-calling, and mimicking are forms of contempt that make the other person feel worthless. If you don’t have something nice to say, don’t say anything at all. And no, you don’t need other people to weigh in on whether you were right and they were wrong. It’s not a boxing match, it’s a relationship.
- Streaming events and movies. It’s cool but it’s not a date. When was the last time you got dressed up and went out? Took the time to look good for the other person? Spent time with your partner in a room full of strangers, or danced the night away? Streaming has advantages but so do those dark corners in the movie theater.
Why does this happen? What causes us to turn away from our love?
Think about the last good joke you heard that made you laugh out loud. What happens when you hear that same joke 30 times? Not so humorous. In fact, you might even groan.
The same things happens in relationships. You become immune to what the other person is saying and doing. They may still be brilliant but somehow their light seems dimmer.
You become comfortable and complacent. You stop listening. Stop sharing. They have a bad day and you no longer notice.
Complaints and grievances begin to take on new meaning.
This can be the beginning of the end. Some people decide to start over, without realizing that the same thing will happen in the next relationship.
Patterns begin to emerge. You find yourself living with someone who has the same traits as the last person.
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